The Pursuit of Happiness?

To Pursue, or not to pursue, that is the question.

Have you ever been told  "there's nothing wrong with a little harmless flirting" or "why don't you give him a call and ask him to hang out", or "now's your chance to make your move" ???

We don't know about you but we've certainly heard these types of things an awful lot and often from well-meaning, godly people whom we respect and admire. However we've recently become convicted that the Bible has other thoughts concerning this issue. 

Question A -There's nothing wrong with a little harmless flirting
"Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised" Proverbs 31:30  A little harmless flirting can be a whole lot of deception. It is often pretending to be something that you are not, in order to impress someone. That someone is actually your brother in the Lord who deserves your respect." Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity." 1 Tim 5: 1b,2

Question B - Why don't you give him a call...
"Be merciful to me, O God, for men hotly pursue me" Psalm 56: 1 (just kidding...this is the vortex after all) But seriously, isn't that what we all want? To BE pursued. Although we took this verse completely out of context, we are trying to make the point that if this WAS the case...we wouldn't even have to consider picking up the phone and giving him a call.  The Bible doesn't just come right out and say the men should be the pursuers, but we believe that the model of Scripture is that the man is to be the leader of the household; if he is to be the leader of your household, he should be the leader or initiator of your dating relationship too. Our limited experience has shown us that women are designed to be pursued and men are designed to be the pursuers. 

Question C - Now's your chance to make your move
Unless your name happens to be Ruth, making your move is not likely to result in winning you a Boaz. Making your move however could result in: the destruction of a friendship, repetitive awkward meetings, and leaving you feeling confused by unmet expectations.
There's no easy answer to this question, but to wait on the Lord and trust in His perfect timing...so here we sit, in the vortex...

waiting....

and...

still waiting...

wait...

WRONG ANSWER! This is NOT what it means to wait on the Lord. Waiting on the Lord is the idea of a servant waiting on their master. Waiting on, is not an act of sitting still, but a readiness to anticipate the Master's need and fulfill it. Imagine for a moment you are a regular at the local diner, the waitress knows your name, has your hot coffee poured before you even sit down and can predict what you're going to order within two guesses. She knows you like your eggs over easy, and that you always ask for Frank's hot sauce to put on them. You never have to ask her to "top off" your coffee, 'cause she already did. You leave each time feeling loved and well cared for, knowing your unspoken needs were anticipated and met.

THIS is what it means to wait on the Lord, to serve Him with THIS eagerness, THIS Love and THIS anticipation. Focusing your attention all on HIM and serving the needs of HIS body here on earth. This is what we should be pursuing.